Do you know a person, who agrees with everything you say?
How about the person who copies everything you do?
These are just a few signs of someone who may be suffering with a lack of confidence.
Recently, on Instagram, I was asked 5 things about myself. The first item I mentioned was:
I am pretty comfortable with who I am/not.
Of course, that’s not always been the case and there are “those” days where I feel like….well you know those days. But overall, I feel comfortable in my skin (as pale as it is!).
In my teen, 20’s, and 30’s, I wasn’t that comfortable……..
…….like when I first moved to a new state in high school and barely spoke to anyone for 6 months…painfully shy. I was so ill equipped on how to handle the situation that I did nothing!
OR
….wearing pantyhose with shorts, in high school , because I was pale (those where the days of orange self tanner).
These are just two of the many examples of self doubt.
Now I do have to say there is a certain amount of confidence I’ve had for whatever reason…….
In college, a really good friend and I went out. She then picked up a couple of friends and they went to do drugs. I was shocked and didn’t want any part of it to which she didn’t think that was cool. I sat in the car while they hung out in the park and did their thing. She was not happy that I sat in there and never spoke to me again. I didn’t want to go to jail for something I wasn’t doing.
Even though I hadn’t dated a ton, I had a guy that I really liked, I mean REALLY, who I told-when asked- my view point on a controversial subject. I knew it might be a deal breaker, and it was, but I just knew I had to be honest with him and myself.
In that example, I knew what I believed and couldn’t lie because it was part of the core of who I am.
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The more I embrace who I am/am not, the happier I become.
And I know……
I AM
-
Halfway decent cook
- Can spot a bargain a mile away
- Have lots of ideas (some are good/some not so much)
- Leadership Qualities
- Compassionate
- Curly hair
- Driven
- Love to Sing
- Loved
- Passionate about “Making the most with what I have.”
- Child of God
- Know what I believe, but I really try to see other perspectives.
I’M NOT
- Tan
- Skinny (no gap between these thighs)
- Gorgeous Nails/Perfectly Dressed
- Accepted to Harvard
- Grammar Queen
- Perfect
- I love to organize and decorate my home, but at any given moment you may or MAY NOT be able to eat off my floors.
- Without Worry
- Professional Photographer
- Able to leap buildings in a single bound.
- ETC!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Although, there are items that I try and improve on my “NOT” side, like photography, I try to realize that it’s okay to embrace my natural skin color and stop fighting it, for example.
The more I know what I AM AND WHAT I’M NOT, the more focused I can become on what I’m passionate about and thus providing confidence in who I was meant to be.
Do you know who you are/aren’t? Who you were created to be?
On a scale of 1-10, how confident are you?
Great post. 🙂
Sharon, Thank you my love!
i wish i could tell you how perfectly timed this post is…it’s awesome, as are you!
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CoCo, So glad. You are great so don’t ever forget that..k?
How good this was to see! Confidence and honesty! Love it. Thanks for sharing.
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Awesome words of wisdom! I totally feel what you are saying about confidence growing as we age. In my forties I have come to accept myself, strengths and weaknesses alike, and have a confidence I never had in my twenties and thirties. I’m glad you feel the same, because I think you’re awesome!
Aww Jen you are such a sweet and caring person. Thanks so much!
Debbie,
What a beautiful post! The quotes you picked out should taped to the walls all around us so we can constantly be reminded of positive thoughts:), especially when we are younger. I think one of the blessings of hitting the 40s-50s is is an awareness of who we are (in a good way), insecurities seem to be less of an issue and at least for me I’m OK with not being perfect and I don’t care as much what other people think.:) Sharing your quote! .
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Wendi, I couldn’t agree more. I use to care so much about other opinions of myself. Now I don’t have the energy to please everyone. I am so much more content. Thanks for stopping by.
I love reading that post. Thank you for sharing
Thanks for stopping by!!!!
This post is awesome! We need to talk soon. I love & miss you my Friend!!!
Kristine, I know! I miss you too!!!
Great post! I enjoyed both your “I Am” and “I’m Not” lists, but I think I liked your “I’m Not” list better. 🙂 I may have to make my own lists. In many things, I’m not very confident, but mostly because I try to do so many things in my own strength. However, I am a child of God, so if I would cling to that truth more often, I would be more confident. Does that make sense?
I am the same way Pat. Focus on the strengths!!
Being able to accept oneself can make you happy. There’s no point in trying to be what you are not. It will just be a constant struggle. I enjoyed reading this post.
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