Do you know a person, who agrees with everything you say?
How about the person who copies everything you do?
These are just a few signs of someone who may be suffering with a lack of confidence.
Recently, on Instagram, I was asked 5 things about myself. The first item I mentioned was:
I am pretty comfortable with who I am/not.
Of course, that’s not always been the case and there are “those” days where I feel like….well you know those days. But overall, I feel comfortable in my skin (as pale as it is!).
In my teen, 20’s, and 30’s, I wasn’t that comfortable……..
…….like when I first moved to a new state in high school and barely spoke to anyone for 6 months…painfully shy. I was so ill equipped on how to handle the situation that I did nothing!
….wearing pantyhose with shorts, in high school , because I was pale (those where the days of orange self tanner).
These are just two of the many examples of self doubt.
Now I do have to say there is a certain amount of confidence I’ve had for whatever reason…….
In college, a really good friend and I went out. She then picked up a couple of friends and they went to do drugs. I was shocked and didn’t want any part of it to which she didn’t think that was cool. I sat in the car while they hung out in the park and did their thing. She was not happy that I sat in there and never spoke to me again. I didn’t want to go to jail for something I wasn’t doing.
Even though I hadn’t dated a ton, I had a guy that I really liked, I mean REALLY, who I told-when asked- my view point on a controversial subject. I knew it might be a deal breaker, and it was, but I just knew I had to be honest with him and myself.
In that example, I knew what I believed and couldn’t lie because it was part of the core of who I am.
The more I embrace who I am/am not, the happier I become.
And I know……
Halfway decent cook
- Can spot a bargain a mile away
- Have lots of ideas (some are good/some not so much)
- Leadership Qualities
- Curly hair
- Love to Sing
- Passionate about “Making the most with what I have.”
- Child of God
- Know what I believe, but I really try to see other perspectives.
- Skinny (no gap between these thighs)
- Gorgeous Nails/Perfectly Dressed
- Accepted to Harvard
- Grammar Queen
- I love to organize and decorate my home, but at any given moment you may or MAY NOT be able to eat off my floors.
- Without Worry
- Professional Photographer
- Able to leap buildings in a single bound.
Although, there are items that I try and improve on my “NOT” side, like photography, I try to realize that it’s okay to embrace my natural skin color and stop fighting it, for example.
The more I know what I AM AND WHAT I’M NOT, the more focused I can become on what I’m passionate about and thus providing confidence in who I was meant to be.
Do you know who you are/aren’t? Who you were created to be?
On a scale of 1-10, how confident are you?