It was about thirteen years ago, after much thought and prayer, we decided we would start the process of adoption.
There are around 400,000 kids in the United States Foster Care System. You can read more about the need HERE.
After research, conferences, materials, a home study, classes, etc, we adopted a 3 year old child from the U.S. Foster Care System.
We were now adoptive parents of a child with a history most of us wouldn’t wish on an enemy.
Does that already impress you?
BUT we get it ALLLLLLLLLLLLLL the time!
“Wow, you guys are so wonderful.”
This is especially true if they know of some of the issues we have had in this process. And make no mistake there have been ISSUES UPON ISSUES!
Although we realize these comments are meant as compliments, it doesn’t paint the right picture.
We wish we could tell you we are saints.
Sadly, not so much.I’m only human Of flesh and blood I am. Human Born to Make Mistakes.
We went into this with good intentions to help, but we also thought it would be a good fit for our family at the time as well (probably an entire post on that). And…..
We have been naïve at times.
We haven’t always understood trauma and it’s ramifications (long term)
We have lost site of the damage that was done at a very important development stage.
WE HAVE MADE MISTAKES!
And here is another VERY IMPORTANT POINT…
We are equally blessed.
Not rainbow in the clouds blessed.
Not everything is perfect blessed.
Not Kumbaya blessed!
We are blessed because sometimes your greatest challenges bring the greatest personal growth.
We have learned more about Grace (giving AND receiving it).
We have a child who, with all the challenges, has a forgiving heart, is gifted, and has the sweetest little face you ever did see……but please don’t get suckered by it 🙂
We have grown, continue to grow, and will be growing more and more each day!